June 19, 2007

My First Wedding Dilema




Do people think that it's okay to tell someone who is planning a wedding (me) how they, their sibling, their child, their next door neighbor went off somewhere and got married and "how much better that was."

I mean people.

When a girl says she's planning for a wedding that is 16 months out, why would you think that she wants anything other than a big ceremony and a big reception at a location other than her home town?

I mean really.

I'm sure that destination weddings are fabulous. I almost had one. Our first choice was Scotland but that quickly got squashed as I realized that my vision of big dresses and big hair (okay, not the big hair) would not be easily transportable.

But over the last 3 days I have had complete strangers approach me to tell me "how they did it". And some not complete strangers. I get it. I really do. And I am SURE that sometime between now and October 2008 I will have that moment where I say "we should have just run off".

But for now. Guys. I'm pleading with you. Be on my side about this.

Let me frolick through the aisles of wedding dresses. Let me laugh as my bridesmaids try on hideous dress after hideous dress (Kat: ignore that last comment). Let me stand in Barnes and Nobles and look through ALL of the wedding books in peace and quiet. Let my mother, soon to be mother in law, and best girlfriends pick out hideous dress (or not) after hideous dress (or not) for me to try on while we laugh our fannies off at the sight of one more turquoise dress (you know who you are).

When I tell you my dreams of a big wedding, just let me tell you. I've already made my mind up and you're not going to change that.

There. Now that I got that off of my chest, I am feeling much better!

Ran 3 easy miles this morning. Really. I ran as slowly as I thought was possible without walking. I still ran it in less than 30 minutes. I can't believe how easy this is becoming. I tried to practice keeping my lazy left arm parallel to the ground (after receiving some much needed advice from Coach Kurt). I think I realized why I'm dragging my left arm.

My ring's too big.

Have a great day.


Liz said...

It is your wedding!!! And it should be BIG!!! :)

The planning is the fun part...the day is the special part and the marriage is the magical part!

Enjoy it!!!

Anonymous said...

Don't let people ruin your wedding excitement. And hey, I'm required to invite my brother's ex wife..who will bring her new husband and total of 4 children (at 39 bucks a piece) and not bring a gift. B/c that's how she did it at my other brother's wedding. But still I must invite her...sigh. Congratulations:) Love your ring, too.

streak said...

This your special day that you have dreamed of since you were a little day, don't let anyone tell you different. Enjoy it to the fullest in any way YOU want. If you want it to be big, small, quiet, loud, white or red, it is your choice and if it makes you happy and it is what you want, then so be it. ENJOY YOUR DAY and always REMEMBER EVERY MOMENT!

jeff said...

smsmh and i did our wedding OUR way, inviting who WE wanted to in OUR location and it was fabulous. running off would have been 'easier' but not nearly as memorable. do it YOUR way, amy...and don't be shy about telling people to stuff it.

thatredheadedlady said...

Ok - this is Kathi - and on behalf of Jenni and myself, I just have to say - HAVE YOUR WEDDING HERE and HAVE IT BIG! We obviously LOVE the ceremony and tradition of it all! And we are still in for turquoise. But if the dresses aren't turquoise, well, then - we might have to talk! Just kidding of course!

Anonymous said...

Planning is half the fun! Enjoy all of it. I got married in is a beautiful time of year!!! What day in October?

Phil said...

You go as big as you want. It's your wedding after all. Tell the busy-bodies to screw off.

Kurt said...

Oh boy a big wedding. I am going to crash this one! Do whatever makes you and Troy happy. Just make sure their are lots of friends, fun and music and you will have one to remember.

Work on the form. I don't think you can blame the ring!

miss petite america said...

everyone has an opinion about everything. just nod and smile and remind them where you're registered :)